I’m just never in the mood anymore…

If I’m honest, it just feels like a chore…

We feel more like housemates than lovers…


Lack of sexual desire can be painful, confusing and frustrating.


What is often particularly frustrating for couples is that you might have experienced high desire at the beginning of your relationship…


For the first few years of your relationship you likely found you both had high desire levels. It felt passionate. You felt excited to see each other, you would flirt together, laugh together, have fun and stay up late for sexy time.


But then as life got busy, desire (sometimes just for one of you, sometimes for both of you) started to wane…


Some couples find that it slips slowly over time. Others notice a distinct turning point. 


Either way, if it’s not dealt with well, it can have a negative impact on your relationship... Sometimes taking you to the point of separation.


Some couples can spend years or even decades going around in circles and arguing about this. 


This is such a painful place for both partners to be.


But it doesn’t have to be that way and I want to ensure that doesn’t happen to you.

Sexual desire - in particular a mismatch in sexual desire - is the most common issue that I help people with as a Couples Therapist and Sexologist.

I know too well the heartache, frustration and despair that can arise when your desires don’t align.

Mismatched desire can strain your relationship and self-esteem.

That’s why I created SPARK for individuals and couples.

I’m passionate about supporting couples to have more connection and harmony together.

Hi I’m Isiah.

I help high-achieving, successful couples have more harmonious relationships, loving intimacy and satisfying sex.

For the past 15 years, I’ve been helping couples reconnect so they stop arguing and feel like a team again.

As one of the most qualified and experienced sex and relationship experts in Australia, I’ve built my reputation on getting my clients results. I’ve lost count of the number of clients who told me that our work together was life-changing.



My advice has featured in publications like news.com.au, Men’s Health, Women’s Health, Harper’s Bazaar and in programs for Channel 7 and Channel 9.


My professional qualifications include:

  • Masters Degree in Relational Psychotherapy

  • Masters Degree in Science of Medicine (Sexual Health/Psychosexual Therapy)

  • Post-Graduate Diploma in Sexology

  • Studied at the prestigious Institute for the Advanced Studies of Human Sexuality

  • Levels 1, 2 & 3 of The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy

  • Emotionally Focused Therapy Externship


I want you to know there’s hope. 


I’ve helped countless couples work together on mismatched desires and have a happy relationship again. 


I would love to support you too.

  • Thank you Isiah for lighting my fire!

    "I've been with my partner for 7 years, to be completely honest for the last 12 months our sex life has been put on the back burner. After finally seeking help, I find myself filled with love, wearing a massive smile. After making love to my partner this evening we held each other and I could feel my tingling body next to his... It's a chemistry and love we haven’t felt in a long time. Thank you Isiah for lighting my fire!"

    Hol, Melbourne

  • We feel connected and it's more fun.

    "Before we saw you, we were struggling with physical connection. We now feel connected now and it's more fun. Initiating sex feels easier and pleasure comes easier. We're excited about where this will go. Thank you for making this process, which could have been much more uncomfortable, as easy as possible."

    Laura, USA

SPARK was created to empower you.

Get the latest science behind happy relationships and desire along with practical tools to support you.

There’s so much misleading information out there on desire.

It can be confusing, overwhelming and hard to know where to start.

You might have tried to make change yourself…
You might have bought sex toys, new lingerie or tried date night…
But have’t got the change you’d hoped for.

It’s frustrating when nothing seems to get the results you’re looking for...

Discover the science of lasting love and desire

  • Based on science

  • 15 years experience

  • Lifetime access*

In SPARK you’ll discover:

  • MYTHS surrounding sexual desire that hold us back

  • The SCIENCE behind how desire actually works + how to CULTIVATE it

  • The ‘secret sauce’ of RELATIONSHIPS and what sex has to do with it

  • The biggest MISTAKE that most people make trying to increase desire

  • Clear steps you can start taking today to INCREASE your desire

With the right tools you can have a happy relationship and satisfying sex life

  • Create more UNDERSTANDING in your relationship

  • Work as a TEAM

  • Enhance emotional and sexual INTIMACY

  • Discover your TURN ONs

  • Spark your DESIRE

Here’s what we cover in SPARK:

    1. Welcome to SPARK! How to create lasting love, intimacy and desire

    2. BONUS DESIRE PLAYBOOK: A guide to igniting your SPARK again

    1. The Secret Sauce of Thriving Relationships: Laying the groundwork for intimacy and desire

    2. Expectations and Myths of Desire: Most of what you’ve been told is wrong but ... there is hope!

    3. Are We Normal? You're probably more normal than you think

    4. History Got This So Wrong: Why your lack of desire isn't your fault

    5. The Biology of Desire: Why the pink pill doesn't work

    1. The Science of Great Sex: Passion is Possible

    2. Be a Team Again: Learn to speak both your intimacy languages

    3. Conversations to Connect: How you talk about this matters

    4. Ignite Your Drive - Why your sex life is like a car

    5. EXERCISE - Discover Your Brakes and Accelerators

    1. From Insight to Impact - The Path Forward

    2. When to Seek Professional Help: You don't have to go it alone

    1. BOOSTING SEXUAL HEALTH AND ENERGY LEVELS: What to eat, supplement and avoid to support sexual wellbeing

    2. EXQUISITE INITIATION: How to confidently initiate sex - without feeling weird or awkward

SPARK - Get your mojo back

  • $247.00
  • 16 lessons
  • 1 hour of video content

Join SPARK today

And rediscover your DESIRE

You’ll also get these BONUSES:

  • The Desire Playbook

    23 pages of expert advice and practical tips for reinvigorating desire.

  • Health, Energy, Hormones and Desire

    What to eat, supplement and avoid to support sexual wellbeing. Advice from my own naturopath.

  • Exquisite Initiation Playbook

    How to confidently initiate sex - without feeling weird or awkward.

  • I feel more confident and sexy than before.

    "Each week a new part of myself was allowed to be discovered as I opened to my sensuality, a wholeness that felt powerful and real. I now feel more confident, sexy and in touch with my body than before. I learned that I am not abnormal... I am beautiful and my desire is still there."

    Anon, Melbourne

  • We have a closer, more intimate, loving and sexual relationship.

    "There are so many ways we’ve changed since we started seeing you Isiah, but they’ve all added up to us having a closer, more intimate, loving and sexual relationship with each other."

    ~ A Happy Husband

Join SPARK today

And rediscover your DESIRE

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